I know some of us on here are hitched to foreign born gals, and my guess is there may be some guys on here thinking about it, or have thought about it from time to time.

So here is my experience:

My first wife was from Mexico City. Long story, but she came to visit her uncle who lived nearby and I ended up giving her rides to english classes in town, eventually marrying her (and providing her citizenship). Could never wash the "city" out of her though and we were not a good fit, me being a country boy who hates cities, her a city girl who didn't like the country. We had one kid who is now 30.

Just as things were about kaput in our marriage and a divorce was in the works I was introduced to a Colombian gal who was living in North Carolina. We corresponded for awhile and then decided to meet in a neutral site: Costa Rica. We hit it off and were married about a year later. She was also a city gal but took to country living and has been a good farm-wife and partner. We have been together/married for 25 years now. It helped that I spoke (speak) fluent Spanish and had some cultural savvy under my belt about Latinas (having lived in Ecuador and Costa Rica for a total of three years). Still, you almost never fully become "culturally literate" to a culture you were not born into.

I have had to bend a little on some things to get along, but it's all good. Some of the cultural differences actually put a smile on my face....like the time her very cute 19 year old niece came to visit. When we got her back home from the airport my wife proudly claimed "look what a hot body my niece has, look at her cute derriere"! To which I expected the niece to be at the very least... extremely upset! Nope, she twirled around showing off her tight blue jeans and laughing! I was kind of shocked. LOL

All in all, I would be very cautious entering into a union like this. You've got a lot working against it, and if you don't have the ability to be flexible on some things it almost certainly will end poorly.

Your thoughts? Experiences?

I have no experience with foreign brides but I know a few that have had very bad experiences with marrying an out of country bride. my 2¢

Buddy of mine hooked up with a gal here in Oregon. She was from Columbia or somewhere down there originally.

Another guy before him brought her here .......she was a washed up prostitute. Looking for a new career " gold digging "


She took that guys money and left .....my buddy, unaware of her back story , picked her up thinking he landed a prize ......woof

My buddy was married to her for several yrs . But I think recently she took her gold and went back to Columbia



Lmao......some guys never learn

Very legit. But I assume you also know some guys that married "in country" women where it didn't work out too well either?

By chance was her name Alejandra? We might know the same people. LOL

Martha

Let's just face it, guys are suckers for a pretty gal.
I think it's called being in rut.

My wife's family fled Communist Poland. She was born here not long after her folks arrived. Dual citizen, which is great for when we travel, makes the process a lot easier. She didn't speak English until she was 7 years old, but she learned English by watching American cartoons. She reminds me a lot of the NCIS character Ziva David. Speaks English well but sometimes doesn't get things quite right. You hit the nail on the head with your cultural differences comment. Took some getting used to. Unfortunately, she was raised in the city. That is sometimes hard to deal with, as folks will always revert back to what they know best. Over the last 10 years, I've slowly got her to come around to the simple country life. But I can say I'm truly blessed! Not to mention, those Eastern European women are fine

When I broke up with my college girlfriend, I had 2 arraigned marriages offered to me, one with a Kurdish woman and one with an Indian woman. I chose not to do either, but sometimes think marriage to a Kurdish minor princess equivalent might not have been bad.

People from Columbia and Mexico have fairly similar values to ours. I would guess, overall, marriages would work out as well as American to American. No offense to Steve, but I think Filipinas are a terrible choice for a wife. I know a lot of military guys who married Filipinas and it ended very badly in every case, but one and that likely ended badly later too. Filipinas are predatory towards men in my experience.

The new term for men who go overseas looking for wives is "Passport Bros".

Keith

I have but you wanted to know about foreign status.

once the ukraine russia war is sorted out there will be a deficit of young men. russia ukraine mail order bride business was booming a few years ago from all the ads i saw. being a facilitator might be pretty lucrative

I know some filipinas that are very nice gals. A lot of the problem from what I've seen is you may be expected to be helping their families out financially on a regular basis. Probably true with many more countries as well.

Heck I have an American wife that can’t understand what I’m saying half the time it’s not just the imported ones. LOL

Everybody likes chocolate milk but I wouldn’t want to live off it.

I believe a fillipino wife tried to prostitute herself to me in exchange for tree work, maybe it's standard for fillipino women to rub contractors chest and play with their hair. She screamed at her husband' when he came outside to "go back in the basement".

I have very limited experience in foreign women, lol, but,,,,,My son was going with a half Salvadoran girl for awhile, till she went off the rails...anyway, most of the guys at the fish store are Salvadorans, so I asked Jose about Salvadoran women....He just shook his head and mumbled something in Spanish....So...even if you are culturally attuned, doesn't mean they can figure their spouses any better....

We need west river rogue to chime in...

I'm waiting for AK timber tramp to tune in. Last I heard he had unburdened himself of one but was now chasing another.

Of course it would be nice to hear some success stories too.

My wife is Filipino. Been married for 10 years. She is from the countryside there and loves living in Alaska. I don’t think I could have found a better match for my lifestyle. Biggest thing was I met her in church and her relationship with God comes first as I believe it should be.

My best friend overseas is married to a Filipino (sp?) woman for 50ish years, two great kids. They lived there and in Japan and here now for 40 of those years. I have met many while I was in SE Asia and have no complaints. Some people are great and others are not, no matter where you are???......jk

…. What you got against white women lol

Had a guy in jail serving time he was a DJ at a gentleman club he said the Russian women were all about the money if your giving them that money your sexy if you don’t you’re a pig! Tough crowd it sounded like.

You can drink white milk I guess, but chocolate milk sure sure tastes better. (And here I was gettin' ready to chastise Bvretriever for his insensitivity and racist remark). LOL

My Costa Rican bride has put up with me for nearly 40 years now, and that ain’t easy!

There will be a lot of single Russian and Ukrainian ladies available. with so many of the men on both sides being killed.

After 29 years with mine if something happens to her I dont think I would even bother With a new one. None could hold a candel to her and would just end up a disappointment. I would be completely lost without her hopefully I die first and won't have to experience life without her.

Most of those aren't necessarily looking for wives...

Being that Chuck and I have been trapping buddies for close to 50 years I'll admit to having taken him down south and putting him in harms way.

Local only!

Clearly, some lack the charisma and charm to court inside their own ethnicity.

Or alternately, some of us are just colorblind.

What you tell yourselves.

Hay man not my fault I don't like sagging my pants

That's a funny comparison, D. Lol

You charmed your girl. She didn't swoon to attain citizenship.

Arron Don't get to kidding yourself every relationship is somewhat transactional.

Sometimes it is pretty darn hard to find a gal worthy of a second look within your own ethnicity! And my wife had zero desire to travel to the USA, leave her extended family, or gain citizenship. But I managed to convince her to put that aside and move to Alaska of all places!

I hate to have to agree with you Chuck ....but you nailed it.

from the very few instances that I have seen, it appears to me that those guys can't find American women that will put up with their attitudes/personality. nothing racial about it.

Forty years ago I met a cute French Basque gal who walked into my store looking for a used shotgun for duck hunting. She came to the states at 18 with $200 and some school taught English to be a nanny in New Jersey, like a lot of young French girls did back in the day.
We started a business and bought our first house before we were married.

No regrets.... in fact we worked side by side for many years and she's a big part of why I'm not a 66 year old drunk fishing guide in western Montana living in a double wide down by the river.

Beaverpeeler and Newhouse... I always enjoyed my fishing trips in Central and South America, and met some great folks along the way.

Bad women exist everywhere and the good ones too. Marriage seems to be the primary way for most folks to find out which is which.

Pete

Actually wife was talking me about how she was chatting with some British women around our age over on a Discord group . Apparently marriage got brought up and a lot of em where upset because most of the guys in there age group are trying the whole pass port bro thing ( when you go to another country and bring a woman back basically because she can get citizen ship ) or dating immigrant women folk if they could. According to them it's because they don't because they usually are happy to cook , clean , be more submissive..... You know the traditional type of wife vibe . Well wifey asked em if they know the issue and are so upset about it.... Why don't they ... You know ......start being more traditional .... Well apparently that WASN'T the right question to ask

I was hoping you would chime in Pete! Great short version of how you got together with your soul mate.

Hey Wolfie, that's pretty good right there.

I'll tell you what, I think I would have dated a typical American gal for months to get to the point of understanding what they want and if it fits in with what I would have in mind.

My little Colombiana told me in the first email that was exchanged exactly what she was looking for, what she would bring into the union, and if that didn't work for me to basically go pound sand!. It was so darn refreshing to have her just up and say she wanted a man to support her, and she would cook and clean, help me raise my son, be a traditional wife....kind of like how I grew up at home.

No beating around the bush or game playing involved.

pretty much confirmed what I said.

nothing wrong with that, but you won't find many American women that will settle for being that traditional wife in this day and age.

Marlin, it sure doesn't mean that Newhouse114 nor I have submissive wives...LOL.

fair enough...I don't know you. (would like to meet you guys one day).

but that's what it sounded like. and in the couple cases I'm familiar with, that's what the guy was hoping. (it REALLY didn't work out that way for one of them...his wife became completely "American-ized")

I know a guy like that....

I believe it's the natural role of a husband to lead. Thats a far cry from a tyrant. I value my wifes opinion. Don't think I would be happy with a completely submissive woman.

I kind of know what you're talking about. I think some guys have this fantasy about what it would look like for them to have a pretty, and submissive mate.

Where marriages really work is where you have a partnership built upon mutual respect. Chuck went back to Costa Rica, learned to speak Spanish, immersed himself somewhat in his wive's culture. In my case my wife and I decided that Spanish is the language we speak in our home. She took all the English classes available at the local community college but never could really completely master our language because she started so late in life (42).

Give and take.

I feel sorry for young people of both sexes in this day and age... especially if they're conservative.... when it comes to trying to find a spouse. With the majority of young white women being blue-haired, nose-ringed, tatted up liberal feminists, I could understand why young conservative men many need to look to another country to find a mate. But, young conservative women also have an ever-decreasing pool of masculine men to choose from.... with many young "men" today not even knowing how to do basic things like change a tire.

Same , the idea of having a partner that just 100% always agrees with you and does whatever you want without question is beyond weird to me ... Most guys I've known to want that definitely have issues.At that point it's like your living with a yes person and ..idk I need kick back

… you’re running around in your own house speaking Spanish?

… ought to change your name from beaverpeeler to tamalepeeler lol

… and I could use a few tamales right now … stayed up till past 4 in the morning… got a category 5 hangover

… a few tamales and a michelada would get me right lol

As soon as I saw Savell was the last poster I knew it was gonna be a zinger. LOL

Or would you rather I'd made that submission in Castellano?

And Yotetrapper...by golly, it's refreshing to agree 100% with you on a thread. LOL

Yeah I couldn't deal with the "average" or "normal" American woman . All the guessing games and long drawn out whatever's.... The guys around .my age will tell me all the crap they do trying to date or dealing with there women and I'm just here like


Idk though we where friends before we dated , seems many skip over that step first that might be it

Had a buddy who married a phillipino woman....evertyhing went well until she asked him to start the process to bring her "sick" mother over.
As soon as Mommy arrived she booked...never to be seen again. Guy was heart broken...

The problem is your reading submissive as be subservient. In fact is seting back and allowing the husband to lead. I value and discuss thing with the wife and take her opinion in acount. She is smart and I married her for a reason. But when or if there is a difference of opinion I make the call. There can only be one person in charge.

In order for her to submit I must be doing my job. The other part of the verse love her like myself. She has to have confidence in my abilities to make good decisions that put the family first. If Im mot doing my part she won't be able to be submissive and do hers.

Being submissive is not a negative thing its a feminine trait. Its not being a slave or walked on its being able to relax and let the man take care of the things that are his job and she takes care of her part. . Today's women tend to want to be masculine take charge and lead, be abrasive and argue.