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Re: Does temporary marriage separation work?
[Re: 2zwudz]
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Emotions are Temporary! yes the bad ones, but even the good ones.. thus, 'Love' at its roots, is a DECISION.
again: Love at its roots, is a DECISION.
you CHOOSE to stay.
but why would you Choose someone who doesnt want to be with you ?
if shes leaving, or this is an ongoing thing, do both of you a favor and let her Gooo..
sounds like its hard to face, but by doing so you are loving and respecting Yourself enough to set the bar of how youre treated.. remember YOU set that standard, no one else.
also I will add when you choose a mate, take your Time.. its easy to "fall in love" with a pretty face, a hot piece of tail, or witty repartee'.. but what lasts is Values, Loyalty, and Maturity.
hence, choose someone who has COMMONALITIES.. saying "opposites attract" is a load of crap for desperate ppl.. choose wisely, not quickly.
theres so much more but these are key as I had a husband of 2O yrs who truly loved me. took him awhile to talk me into marrying him.. he also made me feel secure enough to hav our child.. and never gav me reason to doubt him, in any way or fashion, ever.. he was unique and smart (and sooo handsome) and when he left me (he passed) I realized the depth of the gift(s) he gav to me.. our life together.
so youll find some nuggets of truth, but you wont find the answer here as is if it was easy, we wouldnt be 3 pages in of comments on a trapper site..
remember advice is FREE and not always worth that.
gl.
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Re: Does temporary marriage separation work?
[Re: Providence Farm]
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This web site can and does answer a lot of questions but not yours. Marriage takes the love of TWO hearts working together, not just one. I personally don't believe there's any book or any person that can really explain what true love, marriage really is. But what do I know?? I'm just an old guy that's been married to the same wonderful lady for the last 55 years. You are correct. And also lived coming up in a different time. We're not as many safety nets for women, there was a lot of social pressures that also shaped people's behavior that is not there now. There is a lot of psychological/ behavioral changes that have come with it. Ladies of your age likely had less than 5 sexual partners in their life. Promiscuity was openly shunned same as homos. Today its common to be in the double digits before they are out of high-school. Studies show when that number gets above 7 the ability to pair bond for women gets destroyed. Conditions are not like they were for my grandfather. Often the older generation is not familiar with younger trends. I mean what do you think would be the reaction to a girl that made appointments to set a record of some crazy amount 100 or 1000 men in a day on video back in your 20s. She limited them to only 5 min to keep things moving along. In the interview she said she flet bad several were not able to finish in the time allowed. NO SHAME AT ALL PROUD AND BRAGGING ABOUT IT. Never would have happened back them and she sure would not be giving interviews about. Same as all the queer and Trans stuff. Sure some was around but it was keep hidden. Now I dont have 55 years of marriage but I have been with my wife 30 years married 22 in October. I have teen to early 20s kids and see more of what's going on and how much worse thing are from the young ones and also still in the work force see what's happening to married guys I work with. Even A t man lady unknowingly made my own points for me in a pm exchange whe she wanted to set me strait. Amoung many other things She said my wife was/would be cheating on me becuse im away working a lot among a lot of other emotional crap. . OK so she admits a woman cant be trusted to be true when a man is busting his hump to provide the life the woman wants. She 100% in her own attempt and emotional responce made my point and saying women cant be trusted to stay true. Yet what set her off i think was my saying no girls nights out or close male friends are good boundaries for young men to set. My stance in that is girls drinking and dancing at a club is a bad idea . If a woman wants to live a single lifestyle dance and gring on random guys ashe can stay single. Young men and women dont have much in common and typically young men friends with a woman will jump at the chance to sleep with her if it arrives. If she needs close male attention beyond her husband there are some issues. This may change with the older guys with lower T. I agree with what you said whole heartedly. And it’s refreshing to hear someone who realizes that factors can change from generation to generation
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Re: Does temporary marriage separation work?
[Re: Providence Farm]
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Yesterday at 12:48 PM
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This web site can and does answer a lot of questions but not yours. Marriage takes the love of TWO hearts working together, not just one. I personally don't believe there's any book or any person that can really explain what true love, marriage really is. But what do I know?? I'm just an old guy that's been married to the same wonderful lady for the last 55 years. You are correct. And also lived coming up in a different time. We're not as many safety nets for women, there was a lot of social pressures that also shaped people's behavior that is not there now. There is a lot of psychological/ behavioral changes that have come with it. Ladies of your age likely had less than 5 sexual partners in their life. Promiscuity was openly shunned same as homos. Today its common to be in the double digits before they are out of high-school. Studies show when that number gets above 7 the ability to pair bond for women gets destroyed. Conditions are not like they were for my grandfather. Often the older generation is not familiar with younger trends. I mean what do you think would be the reaction to a girl that made appointments to set a record of some crazy amount 100 or 1000 men in a day on video back in your 20s. She limited them to only 5 min to keep things moving along. In the interview she said she flet bad several were not able to finish in the time allowed. NO SHAME AT ALL PROUD AND BRAGGING ABOUT IT. Never would have happened back them and she sure would not be giving interviews about. Same as all the queer and Trans stuff. Sure some was around but it was keep hidden. Now I dont have 55 years of marriage but I have been with my wife 30 years married 22 in October. I have teen to early 20s kids and see more of what's going on and how much worse thing are from the young ones and also still in the work force see what's happening to married guys I work with. Even A t man lady unknowingly made my own points for me in a pm exchange whe she wanted to set me strait. Amoung many other things She said my wife was/would be cheating on me becuse im away working a lot among a lot of other emotional crap. . OK so she admits a woman cant be trusted to be true when a man is busting his hump to provide the life the woman wants. She 100% in her own attempt and emotional responce made my point and saying women cant be trusted to stay true. Yet what set her off i think was my saying no girls nights out or close male friends are good boundaries for young men to set. My stance in that is girls drinking and dancing at a club is a bad idea . If a woman wants to live a single lifestyle dance and gring on random guys ashe can stay single. Young men and women dont have much in common and typically young men friends with a woman will jump at the chance to sleep with her if it arrives. If she needs close male attention beyond her husband there are some issues. This may change with the older guys with lower T. What kind of perv sites are you visiting to find stories like that?
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Re: Does temporary marriage separation work?
[Re: DRF]
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Yesterday at 01:37 PM
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I knew a guy who was divorced and married the same lady again. I told him I didn’t think that was a very good idea, he replied I don’t know but I got half my retirement back. I got a chuckle from that. Strategy.
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Re: Does temporary marriage separation work?
[Re: DRF]
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Yesterday at 01:50 PM
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I knew a guy who was divorced and married the same lady again. I told him I didn’t think that was a very good idea, he replied I don’t know but I got half my retirement back. I got a chuckle from that. My father in law divorced and remarried my mother in law. He is a tought hard working man i look uo to in many ways. But She walks all over him and absolutely no way I would put up with what he does. The sad part is my brother in law is the same way with women. Picks poorly puts uo with to much gets used and screwed over. Time and again. Never learns. Married 3 times kids with all 3 limited contact with only one of his kids. He is my wife's step father and my wife sees it.. Agrees but won't say much about her mother women stick together. The man is legally blind from histoplasmossis (not spelled right). .learned to function with limited sight worked full time and fixed cars on the side when he got home. Mother in law sat on her butt at home kids were in school. Would give him crap about spending.money to get a tool to make the car repair he was doing easier. Blew me away. The woman contributing nothing was griping at the man spending his money to buy a tool to make more money. My wife has never once said a thing about how I spend money or question a single purchase I make in almost 30 years. My cousin split up from his wife and eventually went back and got her pregnant again. He is currently the most unhappy I. have ever seen him. Can hardly stand his wife, dose not want to divorce and not get to see the kids every day. Staying for the kids may sound good on the surface. Except the kids see an unhealthy marriage and will likely end up in one just like it that was modeled to them thinking its normal as my brother in law has done.
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Re: Does temporary marriage separation work?
[Re: 2zwudz]
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Yesterday at 07:26 PM
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LOL Providence Farm, it must suck to have me living rent-free in your head like that. I have been married 21 years so I guess I have done something right. And I do have male friends, in fact, all my good friends are male. I assure you it is absolutely possible to have platonic friendships with people of the opposite sex.
I truly feel sorry for your wife. I am no feminist, and I do like strong men and do expect them to be the head of the household. What I would never tolerate though is being with someone as controlling as you are. I don't even think you realize how completely insecure the things you post make you look to everyone else. Your insecurity is what causes you to feel the need to control your wife... if you were secure in your own manhood you would treat your wife as your equal, not your property.
The devil's greatest trick isn't making us think he doesn't exist. It's flattering us. So we don't see..... the devil is us.
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Re: Does temporary marriage separation work?
[Re: Providence Farm]
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You are correct. And also lived coming up in a different time. We're not as many safety nets for women, there was a lot of social pressures that also shaped people's behavior that is not there now. There is a lot of psychological/ behavioral changes that have come with it.
Ladies of your age likely had less than 5 sexual partners in their life. Promiscuity was openly shunned same as homos. Today its common to be in the double digits before they are out of high-school. Studies show when that number gets above 7 the ability to pair bond for women gets destroyed.
Conditions are not like they were for my grandfather. Often the older generation is not familiar with younger trends. I mean what do you think would be the reaction to a girl that made appointments to set a record of some crazy amount 100 or 1000 men in a day on video back in your 20s. She limited them to only 5 min to keep things moving along. In the interview she said she flet bad several were not able to finish in the time allowed. NO SHAME AT ALL PROUD AND BRAGGING ABOUT IT. Never would have happened back them and she sure would not be giving interviews about. Same as all the queer and Trans stuff. Sure some was around but it was keep hidden.
Now I dont have 55 years of marriage but I have been with my wife 30 years married 22 in October. I have teen to early 20s kids and see more of what's going on and how much worse thing are from the young ones and also still in the work force see what's happening to married guys I work with.
Even A t man lady unknowingly made my own points for me in a pm exchange whe she wanted to set me strait.
Amoung many other things She said my wife was/would be cheating on me becuse im away working a lot among a lot of other emotional crap. . OK so she admits a woman cant be trusted to be true when a man is busting his hump to provide the life the woman wants. She 100% in her own attempt and emotional responce made my point and saying women cant be trusted to stay true. Yet what set her off i think was my saying no girls nights out or close male friends are good boundaries for young men to set. My stance in that is girls drinking and dancing at a club is a bad idea . If a woman wants to live a single lifestyle dance and gring on random guys ashe can stay single.
Young men and women dont have much in common and typically young men friends with a woman will jump at the chance to sleep with her if it arrives. If she needs close male attention beyond her husband there are some issues. This may change with the older guys with lower T.
How do we nominate a post for the archives? Pure PF Gold. It may be his best ever--definitely Top 3.
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Re: Does temporary marriage separation work?
[Re: yotetrapper30]
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Yesterday at 09:50 PM
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LOL Providence Farm, it must suck to have me living rent-free in your head like that. I have been married 21 years so I guess I have done something right. And I do have male friends, in fact, all my good friends are male. I assure you it is absolutely possible to have platonic friendships with people of the opposite sex.
I truly feel sorry for your wife. I am no feminist, and I do like strong men and do expect them to be the head of the household. What I would never tolerate though is being with someone as controlling as you are. I don't even think you realize how completely insecure the things you post make you look to everyone else. Your insecurity is what causes you to feel the need to control your wife... if you were secure in your own manhood you would treat your wife as your equal, not your property. No you dont live rent free. When you made the comments about my wife messing around when im gone in your pm that stuck. Making an unfounded statement that was derogatory about a woman's character you've never met was quite unbecoming a such a fine Southern Bell like yourself. God bless your heart I know you try hard. And I also found funny you were shooting your own argument in foot about how wonderful women were by saying she would not possibly be faithful, In fact you were attacking female nature instead of strengthens your argument. Your attempt/desire to take a shot at my masculinity over rode your ability to see that effect of your statement on your position. You clearly are intelligent geting a degree or maybe the on line degree is infact not worth much? But you seem to miss the being young part of the no girls nights out. And further back up my position you can't say anything about women that a woman can take as negative without them seeing it as a personal attack . As you clearly did talking about your personal situation. First your not young with raging hormones your over 40 on the down hill side of that. And your male friends are not full of testosterone like they were at 20. They are calmed down. I can understand why you can have platonic relationships or men are not interested taking a shot. But that post was not about you to begin with. It was to a young man to help him with situation that often lead to problems in young marriage and relationships. Now if you feel the need to have girls nights drink and act single grinding on guys other than your husband married and 40+ and your husband is ok with that well thats between you two. Lots of kinks out there. Myself I have standards if my wife wanted to do that she could I don't own her. But I would also wright her a half million dollar check along with weekly support and divorce her. She has no interest in doing so. She is a wife and mother not a single woman. Having that desire is not a wife quality woman and would not meet my standard. Mine is very uncommon.
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Re: Does temporary marriage separation work?
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Yesterday at 10:02 PM
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Trap dog I wish I could give you a link since you seem interested in it. But its some random u tube thing that came up playing after I fell asleep listing to something else. No idea why the u tub algorithm links som things they do. Typically investing or history podcasts cast are what I fall asleep to.
It's possibly GriffinMind: https://m.youtube.com/@Griffinmind He has some good ideas, but is a bit of a misogynist. He comes across as having been badly hurt by women in the past. Not all people of any basic type are the same whether it be by sex, race or religion. There are definitely common traits shared by most people of a type. Keith
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Re: Does temporary marriage separation work?
[Re: 2zwudz]
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Yesterday at 11:19 PM
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And yet.. you make derogatory comments consistently about thousands of women you've never met. I'm out. Carry on letting your hate consume you.
The devil's greatest trick isn't making us think he doesn't exist. It's flattering us. So we don't see..... the devil is us.
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Re: Does temporary marriage separation work?
[Re: yotetrapper30]
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Yesterday at 11:44 PM
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And yet.. you make derogatory comments consistently about thousands of women you've never met. I'm out. Carry on letting your hate consume you. And deflect, twist, bait, and switch. Falls under the women and accountability stance/topic. but I digress I make general statement based on human nature, physiology, and behavior pattern recognition. They only apply to the women that fall into that category and situations. You directly made a person individually directed attack on an individual. Enjoy your evening. I hope your traps are full in the morning
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