I hope you can meet a nice woman you can enjoy spending time with. Dancing is a great activity for meeting women at. It's impossible to not closely interact with the woman you are dancing with. It's good exercise too.
I'm always surprised how some men can say dancing is gay or weak. There's probably no less gay activity than dancing, besides coitus, to do with a woman. I suspect the men that look down on dancing are too self conscious and shy to try it themselves.
You don't have to be good at dancing. You just have to be enthusiastic and not take yourself too seriously. Dancing is supposed to be and is fun.
As you have seen the male/female ratio is almost always well in the man's favor because sadly too many men are scared to try it.
Keith
grandma taught all the grandsons to Polka , basically insure you could dance to at least 4 songs at any Wisconsin wedding.
Grandma and Grandpa met at a USO dance at the end of WWII grandpa was Navy.
that generations socializing was very much dances , when they retired they spent time in a 55+ campground all winter in AZ that had weekly dances at the club house.
they were in mid week square dancing club both in AZ and back here in WI.
The night of my wife's memorial some friends who came to the memorial were having a barn dance.
A good friends wife asked me if I could dance I told her Polka and slow were my only 2 speeds.
so in the middle of a barn dance that was primarily country line dance , we had a Polka.
Repeated a Polka at each of the dances they have had since then.
made me realize I needed to get in better shape also , I can walk all day with a pack or paddle a canoe but jumping around for 4 minutes was a work out.
got to doing cardio , lifting and working on how long I can jump rope for , I am not much good at it but it is getting better.
was watching some 60 minutes type program they were doing a long format interview with a Dr. who studied human longevity. when asked what is the best measure of human longevity they quickly said the 2 most measurable factors are toe strength and balance.
It's the fall that kills you in so many cases.
that was what got my grandma , Grandpa's Kidneys shut town at 84 and he passed , she kept dancing a little after that but not near as much. she fell at 91 and broke her hip , that is what did her in , the surgery went fine but she didn't do all the PT to get back to walking well. then covid hit very shortly after she got out of the nursing home to assisted living , covid was incredibly hard on most everyone living in such a facility , the isolation , they were brought meals in their little apartments it was phone calls not visits and when they did work out visits once the weather was better it was an hour 2x a week max in a tent out on the lawn had to schedule the times. her mental state went down hill during 2020
she passed at 95 in 2023
any way what is there to be self conscious about any more , 2025 kicked my butt.
lived my worst nightmares Diagnosis in January stage 4 cancer to death in July.
in November I was in a car accident hauled out of a car by 4 firemen. I left on a stretcher with a bunch of broken stuff including a fractured vertebrae , I am walking , even running now , back to jump rope even.
I was actually lucky to live in the car accident a tiny bit different and I was a goner or at least never walking again. Spent 3 nights in the hospital.
I credit the 2 moths prior to the car accident I had been hitting the gym hard with being able to take the impact I did and not get any more injured than I did. maybe there was divine help also I have no idea what his plan is only that I am subject to it no point in fighting it can't change it anyway.
got back to walking as soon as I could and worked back up from there.
so trying dancing
heck I am trying Yoga as well , it forces the stretching I don't put enough of in my workouts , the gym has twice a week yoga classes all included in my membership I am the only man in that room.
I am not asking anyone out at the gym that is their safe space to work out as well. most of the women in the yoga class and dance class are a bit old for me any way and the rest appear to be married. I am there for the the stretching and learning.
we will see what comes of it , it's personal improvement and that is all it needs to be. maybe I will meet someone at barn dances , maybe I won't.
either way I did the difficult stuff last year. we will see how this year goes.
